Defending Manhood

Anyone who knows me will understand that I am a very passionate person when it comes to my convictions, beliefs, and the things I love. Today I decided to write on the topic of defending manhood. I realize that this may be a bit of a controversial topic for some, but I feel that this needed to be said.

Some of you may be thinking, but you’re a woman, why are you talking about manhood? I’m glad you asked. There are many misconceptions about the opposite gender and how we can expect them to act. And I’m discovering that unlike a lot of people I’ve come across, I hold different views on the subject.

I overheard a conversation recently where a woman mentioned something alike to “men are just grown up boys”. It reminded me of the concept “boys will be boys”. I really disagree with these statements. Though some may act childish, it is not right to generalize the whole male gender in this way. I believe that as women, we have a responsibility to encourage the men in our lives toward true, (and biblical), manhood. If you assume that boys will be boys, then don’t be surprised if they are acting like boys. However, if you encourage and expect more from them, then they will rise to the occasion and exceed your expectations.

I often hear about how women want to be treated by men.  Though, I don’t see a lot of women thinking about how their actions and words are effecting men. We both have a responsibility to spur each other on and to encourage those in our lives into becoming the best versions of themselves. We can be greatly influenced by those around us and the expectations we are held to. So, you and I both need to be a part of raising up true men and women; we are in this together.

When I spoke up to the women earlier, one of them said to me: “Come back in 20 years when you see what men are really like, then we’ll talk.”

Personally, I hope that whatever I’m doing in 20 years, and wherever I am, that I can truly say I’ve made a positive impact on the people around me. I strive to see and expect the best in everyone. I hope I will have been an encouragement to them and helped them to realize their strengths and ability to rise to greatness.



Sunday Morning Madness

I know I haven’t posted anything in a while. As you probably have guessed by now, life has been a bit crazy and distracting again. However, I still feel bad for losing my consistency in blogging. I wish I could say it’s been a nice and restful break from writing, but to be honest it’s actually been quite stressful. I have a long list of things to do and a lot of pressure to get it done, but now I’m back to writing. Maybe it will be therapeutic and help ease some of my stress.

Anyways, my morning has given me a lot to write about; it was actually very embarrassing for me. I woke up with a headache, which I’d like to think was a contributing factor to my incompetence today. First of all, I forgot that my church switched to one service time for the summer… unfortunately, by the time my brother caught my mistake, we were already going to be very late. Since I was so embarrassed and was afraid to go in knowing that people would see me enter so late, we ended up turning back. My brother found the whole incident extremely amusing and was mostly just laughing at me. Instead we stopped at Tim Horton’s because my brother insisted that I needed a very large coffee. Then we made our way back home where we watched a sermon by James MacDonald, Walk in the Word. The sermon we listened to was on biblical friendship; at the end, when James started praying, my brother proceeded to comment that I smelled terrible and sweaty. Well, that’s true biblical friendship right there everyone. Thanks buddy for being honest with me even when it hurts.

One of my highlights of the morning, and something that actually went well, was singing along to a few worship songs with my brother. I guess something I’d like to challenge myself with this week is to be more courageous, unlike I was this morning. I’m very thankful that God’s grace is new every morning. So I can turn over a new leaf and start again.

What is something you want to challenge yourself with this week?

Watch the sermon here: