Anyone who knows me will understand that I am a very passionate person when it comes to my convictions, beliefs, and the things I love. Today I decided to write on the topic of defending manhood. I realize that this may be a bit of a controversial topic for some, but I feel that this needed to be said.
Some of you may be thinking, but you’re a woman, why are you talking about manhood? I’m glad you asked. There are many misconceptions about the opposite gender and how we can expect them to act. And I’m discovering that unlike a lot of people I’ve come across, I hold different views on the subject.
I overheard a conversation recently where a woman mentioned something alike to “men are just grown up boys”. It reminded me of the concept “boys will be boys”. I really disagree with these statements. Though some may act childish, it is not right to generalize the whole male gender in this way. I believe that as women, we have a responsibility to encourage the men in our lives toward true, (and biblical), manhood. If you assume that boys will be boys, then don’t be surprised if they are acting like boys. However, if you encourage and expect more from them, then they will rise to the occasion and exceed your expectations.
I often hear about how women want to be treated by men. Though, I don’t see a lot of women thinking about how their actions and words are effecting men. We both have a responsibility to spur each other on and to encourage those in our lives into becoming the best versions of themselves. We can be greatly influenced by those around us and the expectations we are held to. So, you and I both need to be a part of raising up true men and women; we are in this together.
When I spoke up to the women earlier, one of them said to me: “Come back in 20 years when you see what men are really like, then we’ll talk.”
Personally, I hope that whatever I’m doing in 20 years, and wherever I am, that I can truly say I’ve made a positive impact on the people around me. I strive to see and expect the best in everyone. I hope I will have been an encouragement to them and helped them to realize their strengths and ability to rise to greatness.